How to tell your partner "I Love You"
Everyone needs to feel loved. It's vital to know how you enjoy being loved, but also how to properly love others. A doctor by the name of Gary Chapman became famous when he came out with a book called The Five Love Languages.
There is a basic breakdown of five different love languages to make it easier for us to identify how to express ourselves to our loved ones. Once you've figured out what your partner's love language is you'll be able to show them how you feel in a way that is fulfilling to them.
For example, let's say that your partner likes to hear the words "I love you" often. Even though they know that you love them, just hearing the phrase can brighten their day. But perhaps you thought that you should express your love by buying little gifts. Your loved one likely appreciates the gesture whenever you show your love, but at the same time it's not their personal preference of how they like to receive love.
The Love Languages Explained
1. Words of Affirmation (The Verbal Lovers). Like the example above, some people just like to hear gestures of love such as "I love you" and "I appreciate everything that you do." For this type of person, you'll want to provide constant encouragement, never letting things go unsaid.
· Try verbalizing your appreciations in some way each day.
· Don't assume your partner knows what you're thinking and feeling - speak up!
2. Quality Time (Time Well Spent) One of the love languages has to do with spending quality time with your partner. This doesn't mean just casual conversation; it means the times where your partner is your main focus. If your partner enjoys quality time, here are some things to consider:
Choose a certain time each day or week where you're completely dedicated to your partner. This means that you need to shut off the TV, put down the paper, and take some away from the kids.
Think of activities you can do together to really connect.
Make sure you have a good relationship with yourself; it's the only way you can truly connect with your partner.
3. Receiving Gifts (The Gift Giver/Receiver). Another love language is one where your partner may enjoy giving and receiving gifts. This isn't because they're greedy; it means they're visual people who enjoy seeing proof of your deepening relationship. If you're with this type of partner, try these tips:
· Even if you're a big saver, make the effort to spend at least a little money or make some homemade or handmade gifts.
· Leave loving cards and notes for them.